No one can escape relationships...and that itself makes it a bondage!
A man gains identity of some sort only if he is put in comparison to someone else...if he is the only one existing then there is no identity to it...the so called 'he' in that case will be called existence itself! but when there are few more then each one of them gains a specific identity...
where there is identity there is integrity and where there is integrity there is division and defense of that identity...where there is identification there is isolation...there is an immediate separation that distinguishes you from all others...and then all the things like defense,respect,low,high and all other divisions and discrimination's occur...when a single thing is cut into two halves...and kept on the same table they immediately gain their own identity and separate existence....and slowly the identification grows into becoming better than the other and moving ahead of other...and then identification becomes idolization and idealization.
and then there is competition...there is pulling and pushing...there is friction...
And still there is an urge to give and an urge to take...there is a desire to sustain oneself...there is a desire to satisfy oneself...and then there is a search for someone who can give you all that...firstly u dnt find one like that...and when u find...u want that...if u get it,it becomes love and it becomes sacred...if u dnt, it becomes a pain and coses disheartening and all that...having it doesn't end it all...it gives birth to new insecurities...the fear of losing it...the fear of not being able to maintain it...the fear of not satisfying the other...the fear that other will not do the same things towards you and so on...
the obtained love is the so called sacred love and the true love and all that...but the one that is not obtained...that which could not be attained...becomes an infatuation,a crush,a fling or sometimes simply non-sense...the so called true love then starts struggling for approval...from family from friends from each other and so on...why will and why should a true love be approved by someone...the answer often is that we also love our family and friends...their opinion matters to us...if that is true love in all the above cases then why will one love oppose another...why should one love approve another? why should LOVE have a name to justify its existence? why should there be a strong bond of marriage to keep them tied together? if the love is true then what is the need of trying to ensure,that two people always stay together and don't pull away..?
and the answer is always a no...there is no need of any of these things...but still one tries to find out the above answers...it can only mean two things...one his/her love is not true...or he is totally unaware about what love is...
and in both the cases the man is sure to be divided and bound by other relations...sometimes external sometimes internal...sometimes his family binds him down...and sometimes his own beliefs and thought systems tie him down...
A relation that negates another...can it claim to be a true love itself? how is love love if it is binding you to itself...trying not permit you to go to someone else? one may say how will you ensure security in relationships in that case? answer is equally natural and simple...if the relationship and the feeling is true then there is no need of a law...it will spontaneously and naturally be in an unbroken harmony...because truest love makes two people one system..that works cohesively and instantly in correlation with one another...if the relation is not true on the other hand it is bound to break away...whether you try to tie it down or try to make it inevitable...either his/her body will be gone or his mind will be gone...and in both the cases his love will no more remain love to you...
one may ask should a man do nothing in order to maintain his/her love? the answer again is a no...because
"if LOVE is LOVE, it will never go, and if it goes away, it was not LOVE at all! "
There is always a meek(psychologically) and powerful struggle to make a relationship translate into love and then translating both of them together into a NAME...sometimes brotherhood,friendship or marriage etc...there is always a necessity to ensure that exact position and place of that relationship...the true love is never uncertain about itself...rather it is neither certain nor uncertain...true LOVE knows only one thing that is being TRUE LOVE...and that is all...when instead it is suppressed and purged to make it go through certain process of valuation,validation and justification it withers away in its beauty...what remains behind is merely a skeleton of rules!
The beauty of love or relationships is sure to fall once it is guided to go only in a certain way...to ask love to justify itself is like asking sun to explain the source of its shining! LOVE is that tremendous force which can connect you even to GOD...and where are we asking it to fit into some silly rules and conventions...
Love is always translated to be only between a man and a woman...but thats not true...love is an element in itself...and it is expansive enough to undertake all types of relationships under its wings....no relationship can sustain itself without love...and if love means to fight,to make,to break up,to divorce,to have sex,to have kids etc then love becomes impossible...if love becomes demands,commands,duties,rules,regulations,captivities etc then it will stop existing...because all that limits is opposite to all that is wholesome...and love is ultimately wholesome.A true relationship is the one that is wholesome not the one that is divided by interests,likes,dislikes,necessities,commitments,jealousies,insecurities, competitions and confirmities.
IN short summing it all up..."Where Identities melt away, truer and better relationships begin"
and "when molten identities come together to become 'one whole' they become LOVE..."
A man gains identity of some sort only if he is put in comparison to someone else...if he is the only one existing then there is no identity to it...the so called 'he' in that case will be called existence itself! but when there are few more then each one of them gains a specific identity...
where there is identity there is integrity and where there is integrity there is division and defense of that identity...where there is identification there is isolation...there is an immediate separation that distinguishes you from all others...and then all the things like defense,respect,low,high and all other divisions and discrimination's occur...when a single thing is cut into two halves...and kept on the same table they immediately gain their own identity and separate existence....and slowly the identification grows into becoming better than the other and moving ahead of other...and then identification becomes idolization and idealization.
and then there is competition...there is pulling and pushing...there is friction...
And still there is an urge to give and an urge to take...there is a desire to sustain oneself...there is a desire to satisfy oneself...and then there is a search for someone who can give you all that...firstly u dnt find one like that...and when u find...u want that...if u get it,it becomes love and it becomes sacred...if u dnt, it becomes a pain and coses disheartening and all that...having it doesn't end it all...it gives birth to new insecurities...the fear of losing it...the fear of not being able to maintain it...the fear of not satisfying the other...the fear that other will not do the same things towards you and so on...
the obtained love is the so called sacred love and the true love and all that...but the one that is not obtained...that which could not be attained...becomes an infatuation,a crush,a fling or sometimes simply non-sense...the so called true love then starts struggling for approval...from family from friends from each other and so on...why will and why should a true love be approved by someone...the answer often is that we also love our family and friends...their opinion matters to us...if that is true love in all the above cases then why will one love oppose another...why should one love approve another? why should LOVE have a name to justify its existence? why should there be a strong bond of marriage to keep them tied together? if the love is true then what is the need of trying to ensure,that two people always stay together and don't pull away..?
and the answer is always a no...there is no need of any of these things...but still one tries to find out the above answers...it can only mean two things...one his/her love is not true...or he is totally unaware about what love is...
and in both the cases the man is sure to be divided and bound by other relations...sometimes external sometimes internal...sometimes his family binds him down...and sometimes his own beliefs and thought systems tie him down...
A relation that negates another...can it claim to be a true love itself? how is love love if it is binding you to itself...trying not permit you to go to someone else? one may say how will you ensure security in relationships in that case? answer is equally natural and simple...if the relationship and the feeling is true then there is no need of a law...it will spontaneously and naturally be in an unbroken harmony...because truest love makes two people one system..that works cohesively and instantly in correlation with one another...if the relation is not true on the other hand it is bound to break away...whether you try to tie it down or try to make it inevitable...either his/her body will be gone or his mind will be gone...and in both the cases his love will no more remain love to you...
one may ask should a man do nothing in order to maintain his/her love? the answer again is a no...because
"if LOVE is LOVE, it will never go, and if it goes away, it was not LOVE at all! "
There is always a meek(psychologically) and powerful struggle to make a relationship translate into love and then translating both of them together into a NAME...sometimes brotherhood,friendship or marriage etc...there is always a necessity to ensure that exact position and place of that relationship...the true love is never uncertain about itself...rather it is neither certain nor uncertain...true LOVE knows only one thing that is being TRUE LOVE...and that is all...when instead it is suppressed and purged to make it go through certain process of valuation,validation and justification it withers away in its beauty...what remains behind is merely a skeleton of rules!
The beauty of love or relationships is sure to fall once it is guided to go only in a certain way...to ask love to justify itself is like asking sun to explain the source of its shining! LOVE is that tremendous force which can connect you even to GOD...and where are we asking it to fit into some silly rules and conventions...
Love is always translated to be only between a man and a woman...but thats not true...love is an element in itself...and it is expansive enough to undertake all types of relationships under its wings....no relationship can sustain itself without love...and if love means to fight,to make,to break up,to divorce,to have sex,to have kids etc then love becomes impossible...if love becomes demands,commands,duties,rules,regulations,captivities etc then it will stop existing...because all that limits is opposite to all that is wholesome...and love is ultimately wholesome.A true relationship is the one that is wholesome not the one that is divided by interests,likes,dislikes,necessities,commitments,jealousies,insecurities, competitions and confirmities.
IN short summing it all up..."Where Identities melt away, truer and better relationships begin"
and "when molten identities come together to become 'one whole' they become LOVE..."



















