Every person is a son of GOD and potentially a GOD... hence, marriage has no 'vital to life' importance in a mans life as it is just a way to improve this illusive life into a better experience.
Most of the times,the basic purpose of marriage is neither understood nor thought about,yet every person marries straight away as if it was the only purpose to live…Marriage is not a 'necessity' like air,water or shelter…A man is potentially a GOD and he need not have such meek,fickle and temporal necessities... Living without marriage needs no elevation or evolution of consciousness…… marriage is no necessity it is merely called so by those who are addicted to it…or those who don't know what exactly it is!
Men and women represent two aspects of god…emotion and logic…and to be god again it is very important dat a man has the balance of both…but everyone may not possess such balance, but life in order to be successful needs that balance...and the same is attained by unity of man(Logic) and woman(Emotion) and for the same reason is marriage…..
Marriage is an institution set up by man and god to establish a balanced progress on spiritual path with equal importance given to earthly matters.But GOD realization is the only right direction of it...enjoyment of worldly pleasure is for our convenience coz we are not able to leave it at once and are so fond of it.We are supposed to make balanced progress materially and spiritually and hence we have to attain god realization without renouncing the world .By satisfying our hunger for love and other physical and material satisfactions.After that losing all the desires for these things gradually and be entirely for god.
Marriage is not prostitution where men and women come together to satisfy each others desires...its not an exchange trade of services provided to each other but a journey to be done together with equal and mutual understanding for each other...and to help each other realize god…
If marriage today is real marriage then it is of no use...it is more of legal prostitution...Where both live together till they satisfy each others wants and desires.And as the exhileration of it dissipates, start fighting or just simply divorce.Fighting against each others egos,wants,desires,ambitions,aspirations etc.shows that the foundation of marriage was made of toothpicks…..
If you dnt knoe the owner of the casino dnt play it.u will lose.The casino here is life with its owner as GOD…know GOD and play the gamble of marriage u will be the happiest person…….
If u play it just coz u r addicted to gambling u will lose,lose and lose and finally the bouncer called death will kick u out of the life casino……..
Marriage is no means of ecstacy nor is ur spouse ur utility…
Marriage is a mutual bond signed on the conditions of unconditional luv…And mutual understanding...the bond is successful with realization of god…the bond fails wen the marriage lacks these two things…successful marriage requires complete clarity,purposefulness,force of luv and affection and contact with/in GOD.......
Marriage can be a golden mid way to god and it can also be the pot hole in our path towards GOD...all is in our hands………..
Steps for a successful marriage:
1.Never think that marriage will take care of itself and the love alone will save it till the end.Marriage is neither a game nor a duty it is called PARTNERSHIP/COMPANIONSHIP.And it will always take a lot of patience and efforts from both of you in order to maintain it.
2. No matter how much you love each other it is always possible that both of you may come across someone else in your lives that may be more beautiful,deserving and eligible of your love...but commitment is all about keeping it...if you don't keep it then there is no meaning in making it in the first place...once you make a commitment called marriage you have to stick together through thick and thin...until and unless the case is exceptionally out of control...where one of the partners becomes seriously detrimental to another.
3.Kids are equal responsibility of both of you...never give birth to kids until and unless you yourself are MATURE enough...don't take each other for granted in taking care of children...its an equal duty of both of you to establish a personal contact with them in every stage of their life, on an individual as well as on a familial level...
4.To marry does not mean to loose one's identity...it only means to combine your identities...
5.Marriage is worth it only if you can make it till the end...if you can't,its better you start considering other options.
6.The real skill lies in maintaining relations in marriage not in dissociating and spreading out...but never hold on to relations at the cost of your spiritual progress...and if they are becoming detrimental to your marriage itself...safe distance from the start can do wonders...excess intimacy and excess distance both are equally damaging to marriage.
7.never criticize each other...always consult each other and suggest each other.
8.never forget to have your private time...and use this privacy to establish newer and higher levels of marriage...establish newer and higher physical,mental and spiritual bonds...
9.Never give up on each other...always encourage each other and never criticize when the other is doing wrong...patiently and persistently keep encouraging the other towards the right direction.
10.Never keep your partner in darkness in any of the issues that you may be dealing with at any level.
11. Marriage is not an instant 'perfectly in love and harmony' recipe...
12.Be careful in selecting your partner...choose someone who shares common interests,who respects you as an individual and who respects your choices in life...one who will stand by you in tough times...one who listens to what you have to say...one who loves you and cares for you...one who is not infatuated with you or your wealth and status...one who is of balanced and matured tastes...one who is not obsessed with any kind of addiction or money and one who is devoted to a definite faith and is completely devout towards GOD.
13.If you can't forgive each other you can't marry...If you cant comfort each other you cannot marry...if you cannot bear each other you cannot marry...
14.Marriage is all about sharing...from bodies,thoughts ,secrets to bank balance and all the blank spaces...everything will be shared...keep all these in mind when you take the last decision...while both marrying and divorcing!
15.Relationship is some free and spontaneous...but commitment is all about laws and duties....if you undertake those duties and follow the laws with love they will not seem like restrictions...but if you walk in clueless about what you are doing you end up criticizing and blaming your partner as well as your marriage for taking away your life and freedom...
16.No matter whom you marry its important that both of you have tremendous,undaunted and unflinching faith in GOD...and all well shalt be done...and in every problem and difficulty, you will be just a prayer away from lord god the father and mother of all.....and believe me he shall DELIVER...
Marriage is an institution set up by god to establish a balanced progress on spiritual path with equal enjoyment of earthly pleasure.
ReplyDeletewhat a simple definition!
every would be couple should know it before they decide to get married....